HOW TO SHARE YOUR STORY
Sharing your story only takes about a minute. Your words could help someone else recognize a message they’ve carried for years and remind them they aren’t alone.
Record
Record a vertical (portrait) video.
Keep it between 30 and 60 seconds.
Share
Begin your video by saying: “My Not Good Enough Stuff is…”
Then choose one:
- Where did that message come from?
- How has it affected your life?
- What did you need to hear in childhood?
Upload
- Upload your video.
- Complete the consent form.
- Choose your display name or remain anonymous.
Where Your Story May Be Shared
Selected videos may be featured as part of the What’s in Your NGES? series on The Inner Child Therapist’s YouTube channel, social media, podcast, and website. Portions of your video may also be edited into shorter clips for the series.
You choose how you’re identified: by your first name only or anonymously.
What is NGES?
NGES stands for Not Good Enough Stuff. It is the collection of messages people absorb from family, school, relationships, culture, and life experiences. Over time, these messages can become so familiar that we mistake them for who we are.
I’m not enough.
- My needs don’t matter.
- I have to earn love.
- I have to be perfect.
- I always mess everything up.
I’m too much.
- I’m too emotional.
- I’m too sensitive.
- I’m too needy.
- My feelings are a burden.
I’m unlovable.
- If people really knew me, they’d leave.
- I have to hide who I am.
- I’ll always be rejected.
- I’m impossible to love.
These messages are learned.
They may have shaped how you survived, protected yourself, or tried to belong, but they are not who you truly are.